This is sometime in the 90's when I had a heated argument with a dear friend of mine. It happened over a silly thing that is what I feel now :) but it seemed so important then and now when I look back I feel some arguments aren't worth fighting over. If you want back a friend of yours, take a step back and say 'SORRY'...Yes I know even when you think and more importantly you know that 'It Wasn't Your fault' !
In any relationship that has gone wrong, or is steadily going wrong, the fault usually lies with both the parties. Life is not black and white, there are many shades of gray in between.
Too often we spend too much time and energy in blaming each other. Don't we all love to play the 'Blame Game?'.
These Creatures - Be it Friends, Husband-Wife, The Saas-Bahus daily argue/fight needless little brush wars and skirmishes over the smallest of issues and lock horns over the most trivial of reasons.
"Must These Battles Occur ? "
Shouldn't we stop saying, "I did not do it, It's not my fault !"
We get so caught up in these daily battles, we don't stop to think about the future -
The future of your friendship with a friend...do you think you would live alone ?I know you would make tons of other friends all through your life ...but life isn't the same when you don't have your best bud besides you to share your joys and wipe your tears ...who has been with you through thick and thin. Would you now want to go in the woods eat worms in the corner and say " I don't have any friends any more "...that is such a sad statement to make.
The future of you and your significant...do you think you can imagine to live your life without her/him ?The one whom you love from the bottom of your heart ..is it so difficult for you to forgive and forget ? Do your arguments/fights weigh much more than the love you share ? Does any other investment mean more to you than the investment of Love between the two of you ?
The future of your family as a whole...do you think your daily battles with your saas/bahu gives your husband a blissful feeling ? Do you think he would say that you have given him the best years of his life ?
Think Think Think Think and Think :)
So, the the next time you find yourself in the middle of an argument or a disagreement or a fight with your Loved One's, regardless of who is wrong, apologize and say-" I Am Sorry I Upset You !"
These my friends are the Healing, Magical Words !